September 18, 2024

Stop Playing Small: How to Break Free from Comparison and Own Your Confidence

High-achieving women, particularly those with ADHD, often struggle with comparison.

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in a cycle of comparing yourself to others, constantly questioning whether you’re living up to your potential?

You’re not alone. For high-achieving women, especially those navigating the challenges of ADHD, comparison can feel like a daily struggle that chips away at your confidence.

But here’s the good news: Comparison doesn’t have to control your confidence.

In this post, we’ll explore how you can stop playing small, embrace your unique strengths, and build the self-belief you need to shine in your career and life.

The Confidence-Destroying Trap of Comparison

When we compare ourselves to others, it’s easy to lose sight of our own value. Social media, professional networks, and even personal interactions can make us feel like we’re falling short. But here’s the truth: Comparison is a signal that your self-belief needs attention.

Instead of measuring your worth against someone else’s journey, it’s time to focus on you—your strengths, your value, and your story.

5 Steps to Overcome Comparison and Build Confidence:

Recognise Your Strengths
Take time to identify what you excel at. Whether it’s creativity, leadership, problem-solving, or empathy—your strengths are what make you unique. Write them down and reflect on how they contribute to your success.
Set Personal Goals
Comparison often stems from focusing on someone else’s milestones. Instead, set personal goals that reflect your journey. Whether it’s a career move, a personal achievement, or something more subtle, focusing on your own path will boost your confidence.
Limit Social Media Exposure
Let’s face it, scrolling through Instagram or LinkedIn can sometimes fuel comparison. If it’s making you feel less than, it’s time to reduce your exposure. Curate your feeds to focus on uplifting, inspiring content.
Practice Gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools to shift your mindset. Take time each day to acknowledge what you’re grateful for—whether it’s small wins, major accomplishments, or simply being in a positive space.
Surround Yourself with Support
Your network matters. Build relationships with colleagues, mentors, and friends who lift you up and reinforce your confidence. Being around positive, supportive people will help you maintain your belief in yourself.

Real Story: From Comparison to Confidence

Let’s talk about Anna. When she first came to me, she was struggling with comparison. She saw her peers achieving what she thought was more success and constantly felt she wasn’t measuring up. But as we worked together, Anna started to reconnect with her strengths. We used those strengths to craft her personal story and build her confidence in talking about her achievements.

The transformation was incredible. Today, Anna speaks confidently about her abilities and has reignited her career. She stopped letting comparison define her, and now she’s leading with self-assurance.

How to Start Building Your Confidence Today

If you’re tired of letting comparison steal your confidence, it’s time to make a change. By recognising your strengths, setting your own goals, and surrounding yourself with the right support, you can break free from comparison and start shining in your own light.