The Hidden Cost of Masking ADHD in High-Achieving Women
High-achieving women with ADHD often mask their symptoms to fit societal and professional expectations.
Why It’s Time to Unmask and Thrive
In the corporate world, many women with ADHD feel the pressure to hide their true selves. The constant need to mask symptoms in order to fit into “normal” comes at a heavy price.
As a high-achieving leader, you may be able to maintain an air of control and composure, but at what cost? Chronic stress, burnout, and a loss of identity are just a few of the heavy tolls masking takes.
So why do women mask their ADHD, what is the psychological toll it creates, and how you can begin to unmask and lead authentically.
Understanding Masking: What does it really mean
Masking is the act of suppressing your natural style and behaviours in order to conform to expectations.
For many women with ADHD (diagnosed or undiagnosed), this means doing whatever it takes to appear organised, calm, and collected. But behind the scenes, it’s a different story—one of mental exhaustion and emotional turmoil.
The demands of masking often leave you feeling disconnected from your true self, creating a constant inner battle between who you are and who you need to be.
Not to mention the old Burnout chestnut!
Why Do Women Mask Their ADHD?
- Societal Expectations: Women are conditioned to be seen as attentive, organised, and emotionally regulated. Deviating from this can feel like a personal failure.
- Professional Pressures: In fast-paced, high-stakes environments, admitting to struggles is often seen as a sign of weakness, making it harder to disclose ADHD.
- Lack of Awareness: Many women aren’t diagnosed until later in life, attributing their struggles to personal inadequacies rather than ADHD.
The High Price of Masking: Chronic Stress and Burnout
Suppressing your natural tendencies doesn’t come without consequences. Masking ADHD creates a constant state of stress, leading to burnout and emotional exhaustion. The fear of being "found out" adds another layer of anxiety, making it harder to focus and engage at work. Over time, this can even blur the lines between who you really are and the professional persona you project to the world.
Steps Toward Unmasking and Embracing Your True Self
- Self-Awareness: Start by acknowledging your ADHD and understanding how it affects you both personally and professionally.
- Seek Support: Therapy, coaching, and even workplace accommodations can help you navigate the challenges of living with ADHD.
- Redefine Success: Let go of the idea that success means perfection. Focus on embracing your strengths and leading with authenticity.
Masking ADHD might seem like a temporary solution, but in the long run, it takes a significant toll on your mental health and career satisfaction. The journey to unmasking isn’t easy, but it’s essential for living an authentic, fulfilling life where you can truly thrive—both as a leader and as a person.
